The Power of Allowing
A surprising lesson in spiritual surrender, synchronicity, and letting go.
I love efficiency. The quickest way from point A to point B is a straight line, right?
Not necessarily. Especially when we’re talking about spiritual growth.
Many things in nature grow or move in a spiral or helical fashion. This pattern shows up everywhere—in seashells, galaxies, our DNA, and even the architecture of our own bodies. The spiral design helps muscles contract more powerfully, blood flow more efficiently, and bones transfer and support weight with less strain. The heart muscle itself is arranged in a spiral, which gives it the strength to keep beating, day after day.
Yes, I’m geeking out a little—but I’m a clinician too. And in holistic health, everything relates. Nature’s design applies to spiritual growth just as much as to biology.
Ascension is a spiral, not a straight line.
A few weeks ago, I listened to a podcast where Daryl Anka, who channels the being known as Bashar, shared a process for spiritual alignment and manifestation that seemed very simple on the surface. I immediately resonated with it, scribbled it on a sticky note, and placed it near my workspace:
Acknowledge. Appreciate. Allow.
The AAA Formula. A way to come back to center.
Days later, as I drove to help my daughters move into new homes, I heard the formula again—this time on YouTube. I’d been feeling a deep sense of acceleration from my soul that week. Everything felt brighter, more aligned, more alive. I’ve learned to listen when messages repeat themselves. And I’ve learned that the Divine often speaks through synchronicity—through the songs on the radio, the timing of a call, or the impulse to turn left instead of right.
This is what the AAA Formula teaches:
Acknowledge: Pause and recognize what is here. Not just what’s happening, but what you have. Most people skip this step and focus on what’s missing. This step brings you into presence and clarity—seeing what has already shown up, what’s already working.
Appreciate: Enter a state of true gratitude—not just a passing “thanks,” but a felt sense of grace and reverence.
Allow: Let what comes next emerge naturally, without manipulation or control. Trust the unfolding.
That weekend, I didn’t try to practice the formula. It simply lived itself through me.
The Spiral in Motion: A Day of Synchronicity
Helping both of my daughters move on the same day wasn’t exactly what I’d call easy. Two locations, movers, cats, traffic, boxes. It was chaos.
But somehow, the day flowed. There was no rigid schedule, just a willingness to show up, support, and stay in the moment.
I started at my older daughter’s apartment, unpacking and organizing the kitchen while movers did their thing. Then I followed the truck down the freeway to my younger daughter’s place, where my ex-husband and I worked side by side—cordial, helpful, at ease.
Later, I met up with an old friend for a spontaneous drink—one I hadn’t seen in years. That meeting alone would have made my day. But the gifts continued.
On my drive home, I took an unusual detour—just a short stop for groceries and a stretch break. That decision, which delayed me by only ten minutes, helped me avoid a major freeway accident. I would’ve been stuck for 90 minutes. I might have even been involved in it. As I rerouted back onto the highway, I felt the wave of awareness settle in.
Acknowledge. Appreciate. Allow.
I whispered thank you and kept driving.
One Step Deeper: What I Missed the First Time
Two days later, during meditation, the AAA formula surfaced again—its third appearance. That got my attention. I thought I’d already lived it out pretty well on moving day. But as I reflected, I saw something I’d missed.
Yes, I’d acknowledged the synchronicities and appreciated the time with my daughters, friends, and even my ex. I’d allowed the day to unfold without rushing or controlling it.
But beneath that was something more profound.
I realized this day wasn’t just about the outer flow. It was about a shift in me.
In the past, helping my daughters move might have meant managing things, offering suggestions, organizing everyone. You know—Mom Mode. But that day, I didn’t need to be in charge. I simply enjoyed watching them lead.
They were confident. Clear. Capable. They didn’t need my direction—they only needed my presence. And that was a gift for all of us.
The Spiral Opens a New Chapter
Letting go of control—even in subtle ways—opened something in me.
As I acknowledged what I already have—grown daughters who are leading their own lives with grace—and as I appreciated their independence and the harmony of the day, I saw what was also being allowed: me.
By allowing them to step fully into their lives, I gave myself permission to step fully into mine.
This is the freedom I didn’t know I was craving. The space to turn my attention toward creation, purpose, partnership, and presence. To focus on the life I’m building now—with my husband, my creative work, my soul calling.
The AAA Formula didn’t just help me manage a moving day.
It helped me move into the next version of myself.
As Bashar says:
“Everything you need is already right here… Acknowledge what you have. Appreciate what you’ve created. Allow what comes next to unfold.”
This is coherence in motion. Physics, really. The energetic kind.
And so, I’m allowing myself to spiral upward—trusting that what’s coming is not separate from what I’ve already received.
It’s all one sacred thread.
Let it Lift You
The AAA Formula is simple, but not shallow. It’s not just a tool for manifesting outcomes—it’s a path of presence. A way of being that invites us into deeper trust and alignment.
Whether you’re navigating chaos, chasing clarity, or stepping into a new chapter of life, consider this your gentle reminder:
Acknowledge where you are and what you have.
Appreciate what you’ve become.
Allow what’s next to find you.
You’re already in the spiral.
Now, let it lift you.
How is the spiral showing up in your life right now?
Hit reply or share in the comments—I’d love to hear what you’re acknowledging, appreciating, or allowing this season.
So good, Sonia.